Wednesday, November 15, 2006

Dedicated To My Mother - My Number One Shero


Two posts in one day. Naijabloke, you get what you ask for o....LOL. I just had to do this post about my mother. LondonBuki and Overwhelmed both have weekly features on their mothers. While I won't be doing that (I can barely write a post/week), I do want to dedicate this post to my mother, especially since a good friend I talked to last night reminded me of why she is like no other.

I cannot even begin to explain to anyone how INSANELY COOL my mom is. She isn't just my mom, she's my friend and we talk about pretty much anything. Yep, even the Naija parent taboo issue called SEX. Everything I know about how to treat people, and how to talk to people, I learned from her. My mother goes out of her way to help anyone and everyone. In addition, she is a businesswoman who has had ventures succeed and fail. When they succeed, she shares it with everyone. When they fail, she picks herself up, dusts herself of and goes right back to it. She is not one to waste time complaining.

She is stylish beyond measure....BOLDLY stylish, with reddish auburn hair, brightly painted long nails, and she doesn't shy away from bold colors and patterns. She has graced the pages of style magazines in Naija but that isn't her motivation. It is just important for her to carry herself well. She is 5ft 11(taller than me) and used to model back in the day and could have made it big if not for us kiddies...LOL. But she doesn't regret it. Her life is just the way it is supposed to be. She once told me that her proudest acheivement is her children and she doesn't even need for us to take care of her in her old age.....as long as we are happy, safe and loved by our respective partners, she'll be fine. She makes things happen for her children no matter the sacrifice. I just went home in May, and had the bright idea of going again at Xmas because all my peeps are going. All I had to do was tell my momma........and she's making it happen o.

When friends meet my mom, they marvel at how warm and real she is. She doesn't even have to meet them in person. Once my mom talks to you over the phone, forget it....she's your new friend. LOL. Whenever we would come home for the summer from school in London, my sis and I had a get together practically every day and mommy would get up at 4am before work, cook jollof, fry meat and chicken and have daddy pick up minerals and voila - instant party!!!!! We never had to ask - she would just do it.And talk about hanging out....my mom can hang with the guys in every way....na Harp or Gulder.....she can hang!!!! LOL. And women find it difficult to envy her because she has a really warm spirit.

In addition, my mom is funny. She can crack you up like no man's business and she loves to play and have fun. When growing up, we used to have mad fun just talking to each other in posh accents on a whim....we still do. She also gives the best hugs, and the best pep talks.

Below is an MSN conversation I had with my mom yesterday. She is just starting to get into chatting online, so she's still learning about the slang and other forms of online communities. I think in just this small piece of our conversation, you guys will get how fabulous my mom is. She doesn't mince her words, she tells it like it is, she's fun, young at heart, looks and feels great (she's in her 50's), is open-minded and willing to try new things, and loves her kids to death - and anything/anyone we love, she loves too.

b says:
ok i gorrit !! I get it on email/txt sometimes but just ignored it...Luv u too.wotz up with d guys o?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
lol...........not too much with the guys
b says:
your time will come soon in Jesus name o!!!
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
amen mom....amen. lol
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
r u ready 4 some grandchildren? lol
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
r u ready for someone to call u Nana B? lol
b says:
Yes o...but as long as you are able to look after them 85% I'll take the rest !!!
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LMAO...............mom! u're too funny. No, oh. When u're ready to take care of them 75%, then we'll talk
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
lol
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LMAO.....means laughing my ass off, by the way.
b says:
The guy should be able to do 40%, u do 45% AND I TAKE THE REST...FAIR?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
why shld i do 45%? why can't the guy do 45%?
b says:
Gen has now been switched off.... and its damn hot...
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
sorry o
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Mom, you are just too funny.....I'm gonna have to put u on blast on my blog for real
b says:
WOTZ THIS BLOG STUFF SELF?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Lol.......it's just a new way that our generation (actually, not exclusively our generation) are expressing themselves and their ideas very freely.....and others read it. it's like a little community...pretty cool thing. In fact Funmi Iyanda and Donald Duke have blogs.
b says:
sounds like fun if one gets round to it, I tend not to have time except check my mail...even the hi5 I dont do nuffing about. Got to find time to chill out a bit and have some fun
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
lol...it's cool. Mimi does it, I do it, Yetty does it, Lola does it............lots of folx
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
And they're fun to read. They're addictive
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Like Yetty did a feature last week on Naija men doing great things........lots of cute, sexy single Naija men!!!! LOL
b says:
I know Mims is on it coz shes talked about it I will get round to it soon...if I know wot & how am supposed to get on to it
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
actually it lasted for 2 wks....2 guys per day. it's not hard. it's just like a web address u type in.
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Mimi's is http://msminx.blogspot.com and mine is http://chicafricana.blogspot.com
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Just keep an open mind when u read okay.....
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
don't be too shocked....LOL
b says:
Am quite unshockable...believe it or not so have no fear
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LOl...that's my mama
b says:
yeah!!!! there goes ma baby too...
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LOL........i miss u so much mommy
b says:
have u had dinns? howz Dedun?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Yeah I ate. I talked to Aunt Dee yesterday. She's good.
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Still there?!!!!!
b says:
24dec
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
oh cool....i guess we're gonna be there
b says:
U may actually make it...wont dat be nice? U'll be so nakered tho...but wot the heck... dats part of the 2week fun !!!!
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
heck yeah....mom, i wanna have so much fun when i come home. so many pple r gonna be home........it's gonna be partying all thru so get ready o...........and i won't be playing with my outfits either. i'm gonna do sexy in Naija
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Daddy will just have to deal with it o...LOL
b says:
Yeah rite... sexy ok but not boobs/butt hanging out o....
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LOL.......there'll be some chest area but nothing distasteful...and lots of leg...
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Life is too short........and once i start having ur grandbabies, everything'll start falling so now's the time...LOL
b says:
I say Amen to lorra leg o...chest area? uhmnnnnnn we'll see bout that.
b says:
and as for the boobs hitting the floor ..... u'd bera do some good packing now to make sure they dont go on free fall too soon....
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
LMAO.......mom, u're cracking me up. But seriously, the chest showing will be tasteful
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
U know me anyway..........classy
b says:
u kno me...I can live wif dat. so long its tasteful...and I trust ma babe ...as for taste...she has oodles of it ,,, rite?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
what do u think?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
who taught me about that stuff?
b says:
RITE ON YOU ARE.....
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
ok mommy..........i need to study a lil bit...will talk to u soon yeah
b says:
FANTASTIC...LUV YA LOADS AND CANT WAIT 2 C YA...WILL CATCH UP WIF SOME CHITTY CHATTY SOME OVA TIME
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
ok..........luv u too mama..........pray for me abt my GMAT exam, okay? Special prayers needed
b says:
U BE OK BY GODS GRACE...WOT DATE IS IT ACTUALLY...
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
moved it to Dec 9.....was supposed to be next wk Sat
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
but i didn't think i'd b ready
b says:
Thankfully no more travelling so u settle down to do some serious stuff. Dont u worry...just apply urself ...it'll be a doddle
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Thanks mommy........love u
b says:
luv ya too....and nity nity luv
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
Nite Nite

Below is a poem that I wrote for my mom in 1997. I'm putting it up here as a dedication to her.

My inspiration comes from you
Your eyes, your smile, your lines, your face
Tell a story
You've lived it, life
Good, bad, happy, sad
You've been through it all
All I have to do is watch and listen and learn
So I make fewer mistakes and have better experiences
I see through your eyes
I live by your tales
Everything I do is a little bit of you
My inspiration is you


MOMMY - I AM SO THANKFUL GOD CHOSE YOU TO BRING ME INTO THIS WORLD. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH SOMETIMES I THINK MY HEART WILL BURST. YOU ARE MY NUMBER ONE SHERO - THE EPITOME OF THE WOMAN I WANT TO BECOME. THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO WITHOUT THOUGHT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR NEEDS. IT WILL BE WORTH IT. YOUR ELDEST CHILD - YOYO.

UPDATE: Here's a message from my mom after reading this piece....LOL. Didn't actually think she'd get around to reading it so soon, but she only read this piece...not the whole entire blog. Now I know she won't do that....she has way too much to do. LOL. Anyhoo, you guys are now my "bloggies" o accordng to momsie...LMAO.

b says:
I just went thru your blog and its so fascinating girl !!! I'm so chuffed you feel so good about me and for all these comments from your "bloggies".. Luv you loads girl. Am proud of you too.
b says:
But hey, I told you... keep no secrets from me girl... now you know why !!!!
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
what secrets?
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
lol
b says:
Good to have everyfink in the open....
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
oh...i get it....lol. i'm being slow.
b says:
Its almost 8pm...still at work...gorra go get a life... Like listening to my fav yoruba prog on radio on friday @8 in the car... bliss !!!!
My Sis is a Star!!!!! says:
lol

25 comments:

NaijaBloke said...

Yeah am the first and thx for the comment u left on my blog"dont worry ..ama get u".

Men am damn jealous big time,I need to make ya mum my mu ASAP.I luv my mum to pieces o but ya mum is damn cool.

Oya gimme ya mama's number cos I need to holla at her ...LOL

Nice piece and u berra read and pass that GMATS exam cos u now have someone that going to get on u for not passing o..

U have a nice weekend

zaiprincesa said...

LMAO @ "wotz up with d guys o? and Yeah rite... sexy ok but not boobs/butt hanging out o...."...lol..UR MOMZ IS GANGSTA OH, Ahn ahn.....
I miss my Mummy oh.....:(

Miguel said...

Ms. May lol... I think i'll laugh through out if I had to chat with anyones mum and they were that cool and could flow with the lingos ... my mum is such a stickler! need to coach her on being cool..hmmm

Soul said...

your mum sounds like a scream..lol.
damn nice and right on...:)
Ain't loving family something wonderful?

Koki said...

Wow this is really beautiful. Moms are the best. I was so touched and watery eyed reading this because my mom passed away 2 years ago and really the bond you have with a mother is like nothin else on this planet. I am fortunate though because I have a VERY close knit family and my 2 aunts are like my mothers. Very cool too and funny. It was funny reading yourIM message. I got my aunt onto it 2 years ago and shes also in her 5o's. As soon as she gets to work shes already sending me offline messages checking to see if I am sleeping already and using all the smileys. So funny! Your mom is really beautiful!

Belle said...

your mom rocks!!! LOLOLOLOLOL

LondonBuki said...

I loved this! Your Mummy is beyond cool, that IM conversation says a lot about the relationship you guys have - BEAUTIFUL.

low said...

Lollllllllll....thats EXACTLY how she raises her hands. The picture couldnt have said it better.

Just remembered how she told me 'do or die' she want a P&R skirt..lolll...love ur mama...

Biodun said...

Your mom is so cool, nice. I love the poem too, you r blessed with a wonderful mom n so is she with sucha daughter like you! Have a nice weekend girl!

Icy said...

As an official member of the formilik I can testify to mumsi being wwwwwwwwaay too kool. Love her toonsss. You've said it all. I don't even know what else to say.. She is hailarious.. And ya'll need to meet her to understand she is a hottie lol!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

awwwwwww... that is just too cute... and its great that y'all have a fantastic relationship!.. that just warmed my heart to read it!fantastic tribute to a very funny and fantastic woman... lol.. my mom is cool but not nearly half as open about stuff... lol(she almost goes into a spasm anytime she sees some cleavage!.. lol)

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

lmao.. and i don't think it'd have quite the same effect if my mom found out about my blog.. lol...

Ms. May said...

@ Naijabloke: LOL...I'm scared now. Get lil ol me for what? LOL. And as per my mom, let me think about that one...LOL. Thanks o and u have a fab weekend too. Stay up!

@ Zaiprincesa: U no see me see trouble....she is very gangsta. I def feel u on missing the mom.

@ Miguel: I can't even begin to tell u how funny she is. I wish I cld post some of her emails too but I won't. She has her own language sef...LOL

@ Soul: She absolutely is a scream. Wanna meet her? LOL. Family is wonderful, and the cool thing is it's not just restricted to blood. Every single one of my friends becomes part of my family and gets to experience my mom too.

@ Koki: Thanks for stopping by and thanks for saying she's beautiful. I think she is but then I'm biased...LOL. I'm so with u on the IM thing....my mom is fascinated by it right now. We'll see how long it'll last. LOL.

@ Belle: Thanks! I think so.

@ LondonBuki: Awwww...thanks boo. You'll be having proper convos with your mom again soon by God's grace

@ Low: Just online with Mommy....she still wants her skirt...LOL. I remember when you first met her....too funny. By the next time you saw her, she was ur best friend asking for all the gist. LOL

@ Biodun: Thanks ma. Appreciate it. Fab wknd to you too.

@ Icy: Def a member of the fam girl! I hope I'm a hottie too when I get to her age.

Wale said...

your mom is hot (in more ways than one).

my favorite post of the week...for sure.

but i hope she doesn't get on blogspot...i feel like you'll be reserved...

what am i talking about...see the conversation u had.

Funmi said...

your mum is so cool.what really tripped me was the online convo......u r blessed girl

mosaic said...

Just had to comment. Your mom is such a young soul. Her humor is off the chain, too....talking about "listening to her fav program on Friday night....bliss!" LOL

You're a lucky girl.

Onada said...

LOL....you got one funky mama for a mum!

Ms. May said...

@ ONB: LOL @ your mom spasming at cleavage. My mom had to beg me to show some chest at one point during my teenage years cos I was all for covering everything from head to toe.

@ Wale: My daddy is a lucky man, ain't he? LOL. So happy this is your fave post this week...it warms my heart. Your opinion matters. I was going to say that it'd be a while before she checked it out but obviosuly my update proves me wrong. However, I don't thinks she'll read the rest of it though...she doesn't have that much time on her hands.

@ Funmi: I am blessed.....beyond measure.

@ Mosaic: Thanks....very lucky. Your blog is cool, by the way. I stop through every once in a while.

@ Onada: Funky is a great word to describe her. LOL

DiAmOnD hawk said...

love love love this...
your mom is real cool...i like when moms can be "sistah gurl" but still be a parent...

Olawunmi said...

loving your mom. could your parents be more cool? first your dad, and now i find that your mom is oozing cool too. can i adopt you people as my second family? i can send an audition tape, if you require... lol. please say yes.

Olawunmi said...

bless her. i laughed at her comments. i love how frank you people are with each other.

Ms. May said...

@ diamondhawk: She is "sistah gurl", sistah gurl...LOL.

@ olawunmi: "oozing cool"....i love that. man, you are more than welcome to adopt us o.....then some of your brain can rub off on me...LOL. i have an ulterior motive...LOL. and yeah, we try to be as real as possible with each other.

Life through rose-tinted glasses said...

wow! ur mum sounds really wonderful and the relationship u guys have is awesome...so lucky u have such a mum i know i'ma bit late on this one ma bad. cheers babe

bhookey84 said...

wowwwwwwwwwwwww, ur moms way kewllll

SapphireAster said...

Ms. May where have I been? just read this one and the one about your dad...Your parents are madddddddd kewl...they should consider adopting me too o! I'm jealous why lie! I know naijabloke has been crying to be adopted but pls dump him for me jooo!

the relationship you have with you ma is commendable. You're blessed!