Hey Y'all. Wetin dey? This week has flown by....can't believe it's Thursday and I only put up one blog this week. Anyhoo, I'm about to rectify the sitch. So, the ladies BellaNaija and Yetty have both started something o. Bella is our very own resident "Dear Abby" and her first question came from a young lady who did shakara for a guy she liked till the bobo fashied her and found someone else. Then Yetty picked it up from there and asked the question, "When is the right time to stop the shakara, and does the opposite sex lose interest if you stop the shakara?". So I have decided to take it a bit further.
Here's the scenario. All the shakara on both sides is said and done and you both figure out that you like each other, you start spending time together and everything is cool. You're both floating on air. The guy is thinking, "men, this babe is cool o. no stress when i wanna hang with the boys, she's doing her own thing, her cooking game is tight AND my boys like her." The girl is thinking, "this bobo dey o. he appreciates my cooking, he listens when i talk, he even takes me shopping every once in a while AND my girls like him." So after the customary few months, let's say about 5-6 months, the girl decides it's safe to drop the "L" word. All of a sudden...kata-kata busts and dude starts acting weird. The phone calls are few and far between. When he does call, it's a 5 minute conversation and then he has to go. When you call, na so so answering machine. He doesn't come over as much, and barely invites you over anymore either. What do you do?
Let's hear it folks. Any women who have experienced it. Any guys who have been perpetrators. Or if you just have an opinion. Share o. Inquiring minds wanna know.
"If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were." - Anonymous